It’s common for high-achieving women to tell themselves they can power through any challenge and stressor. It’s always worked before. And it will again.
Until it doesn’t.
It wasn’t long ago that you had a real spark. A full life with passions you actively pursued. But now, you’ve likely fallen victim to the chronic stress and exhaustion that too often accompanies giving so much of yourself
You give, give, give—to your work, your coworkers, your family, your friends, and your communities. A go-getter and problem solver, you take on all kinds of roles and wear all kinds of hats.
A cycle of chronic stress begins when daily life is reduced to merely going through the motions just to get through the day. you fulfill external expectations at the sacrifice of yourself.
Your output is tremendous but so is the toll on your wellbeing.
The day my mother was diagnosed with Alzheimer’s,
the physician and a good friend, took me aside…
“Whatever plans you have together, do them now. Don’t put anything off.”
With three boys on the brink of teenagerhood and an eroded marriage,
I wasn’t exactly in a position to travel the world with my mother,
but the advice hit me at my core.
THE CLOCK WAS TICKING.
From this point on I came to look at every choice through the Alzheimer's lens—
or the “Identity Thief” as I came to call it.
As I walked into the senior care manager's office, I was ready to make a plan, hear all the options and leave with a strategy. I was ready to battle this neurological nightmare. Instead, I got a lesson on perception and reality.
"The best advice I can give you in caring for your mother is to enter into her reality," she said.
Seeing my blank stare, she took my hand and lowered her voice gently...
"What I mean is...your mother is now looking at the world through a different lens. Treatment options are few.
The best and most compassionate care you can offer is to embrace her reality. Don't rob her of her dignity or sacrifice your relationship by fighting to bring her back into yours."
Fast forward five years and I had hit a wall.
Juggling my mother’s care, raising three adolescent boys, and balancing family, home and friendships while growing a business...the balls were dropping daily.
My health began to suffer, my energy waned, my self-confidence faded, and my patience thinned. I was no joy to be around.
Barring my mother’s health, however, things appeared near perfect from the outside. Accomplishments were plentiful and all the boxes ticked off. But the inside was a wasteland. There was a disconnect. Everything I had worked so hard to create didn’t seem to make sense.
In fact, I was now questioning what had made me want some of it so badly in the first place.
It was late one evening while reading and reveling in the silence of a sleeping house, when I finally woke up.Stationed in the middle of our coffee table sat a large carved ceramic elephant. At two-plus feet tall and equally wide with his large curved trunk and beautifully textured skin, he was a show-stopper.For 7 or 8 years now he’d not only been the focal point of our family room but he’d celebrated every holiday along with us--Santa hats on his head, Easter baskets hooked to his trunk and he’d been adorned with balloons, bows and party hats for every major family celebration.Reflecting back on all the photos and special occasions was comforting. But it wasn’t until that moment that the irony began to seep in.We had an elephant in the room.As I stared at him and he at me, a deeper and more uncomfortable truth washed over me.
I had been telling myself...“you’ve got this, you can handle parenting, caregiving and an imploding relationship and still build your professional identity all by yourself.”
But the truth was, I really hadn’t and I definitely couldn’t.
I had a deep void in my life. And my mother's illness had brought it to the surface.
Her identity was shifting as were her needs and desires. For her to thrive, I had to acknowledge and honor her new reality.
But the truth was...I had lost complete touch with my own.
Long ago, I had become sidetracked by a litany of expectations and to-do lists that weren't my own. Now there weren't enough hours in the day to accomplish what I “should” be doing.
In the chaos and confusion, I had unknowingly pushed my own needs, values and desires to the side. The trouble was, I had now lost sight of them altogether.
Denial had become a way of life. And numb, my new normal.
I work with women stuck in chronic stress and burnout because I know what it is to lose your sense of purpose...to long for more fulfillment in your work, more meaning in your day-to-day life and a strong support system to back you up.
Because when life throws the inevitable challenge your way, it can push you to the tipping point.
I believe that resilience is not about pushing your way through challenge and hardship, but rather the willingness to embrace your own personal power in spite of it.
I’m here to give your the tools and strategies to build your personal power, potential and so you can carve a fresh path, one that is aligned with your natural leadership style.
The only way to shine as a leader and experience real joy, is to have the autonomy, freedom, and creative license to align your work with your personal values so you can follow your intuition, leverage your personal strengths and make valuable contributions that make a difference.
In it, is your happiness, your purpose, and your legacy.
But in this hustle-hard culture, it’s easy for contribution to get buried by obligation, expectation and the next impending deadline.
The to-do list is endless. You’re sprinting to keep up and busy beyond belief. But what is there to show for it?
You're exhausted at the end of every day. And tomorrow will be no different.
Your contributions, at work, at home, in your community--they matter. And when they go unrecognized or get watered down, your sense of purpose does too.
But when we feel seen, heard and valued for our unique and individual contributions, we become unstoppable.
I’m a Certified Women’s Leadership and Burnout Coach and Founder of Live Your Brilliance Coaching.
The core of my work focuses on my signature system which incorporates the four key pillars that I believe are at the core of authentic and sustainable change:
“THE R.I.S.E. COACHING METHOD"
R.I.S.E. is a coaching model that helps high-achieving female leaders break free from chronic stress and relentless demands that cause burnout so they can redefine their work and life according to their own definition of success.
My methodology weaves together personal and client experiences, practical strategies, science-based tools, and spiritual teachings into one complete tapestry.
I have guided hundreds of women to new, empowered, and refreshingly honest relationships with themselves, their work and their day-to-day lives through my nurturing, holistic and strengths-based approach.
In our work together, you'll bring your unique personal stories, career aspirations and a big dose of commitment to your own success.
I’ll bring practical tools, a wealth of coaching and strategic experience and inspiration galore.
I lead with vision, heart and a rock-solid dedication to supporting your dreams and goals. I know this journey like the back of my hand.
Join me. Let’s explore these roadblocks together so you can break free from chronic stress and create a more peaceful, meaningful and joyful future. Education & Training
I empower women to rewrite their stories and redesign their work according to their own definition of success, so their lives feel purposeful and their contributions meaningful. And I can help you too.
For some, a new chapter means realigning their work with their leadership style and values.
For others, it's getting out of a high-stress job and rethinking what they want their future to look like
For still others, it's eliminating the emotional and mental stress in unhealthy work environments or exiting toxic ones.
And for all, rewriting your story is defining your own success and designing a new path to happiness and joy.
I thrive on helping women, just like you, rewrite your stories so you can make meaningful contributions, become extraordinary leaders, and build relationships that support you on every level.
Help you transform your most vulnerable, challenging moment into life-changing assets.
Help you navigate your way through relationship conflict, stress, and burnout and eliminate the confusion.
Empower you with just the right blend of practical tools, practices, strategies, and resources, so you can address your front-burner challenges and make immediate changes.
Guide you to design a long-term plan for your future that aligns with your values, needs, and goals.
Help you with creative problem-solving. I know there is an opportunity for you to shine in the midst of every obstacle and challenge. I love tackling problems and turning them into solutions.
Support you to create nurturing environments and strong support systems so you feel seen, heard, and fully valued in your relationships, your work, and your day-to-day life.
Offer insights that allow you to see your own situation differently, create new perspectives, and open up new possibilities.
Support you to see the big picture and understand your future vision without missing a small detail.
Help you to see, believe in, and trust your own brilliance
The University of Texas at Austin, M.A. Austin, TX - 1991-1992
Wellesley College, B.A. Wellesley, MA - 1985-1989
Gaia Project for Women’s Leadership, Certified Coach 2017
“Now What?” Career Coaching, Authorized Facilitator 2015
Playing Big for Women Leaders, Facilitator Training 2014
Life Coaching Group, Certified Laser Coach 2013
International Coach Federation, Associate Certified Coach 2013
COACHU Advanced Program, Professional Coach Training 2012-2013
This is a 60-minute confidential opportunity to explore your specific challenges and create an actionable plan that will map out your goals and accelerate your progress.
“Elizabeth really helped me carve out my future career plans and was with me every step of the way. She was present as a coach at a crucial point in my life and the coaching she delivered was extremely effective and spot-on every time.”
“My work with Elizabeth enabled me to take vital steps forward in my career aspirations and her level of support and challenge was exactly what I needed to effectively manage my stress and uplevel my work. I highly recommend Elizabeth and would think of her again when I need a coach.”
“Elizabeth has been an excellent coach for me. I've been able to reach the life balance I was seeking and I feel confident that I will be able to sustain that balance as I address a number of near-term challenges.”
Los Angeles, CA
If you're interested in learning more about one-on-one coaching, a one-day intensive or designing a group program within an organization, schedule a time to speak with me.
This complimentary strategy session designed to give you an actionable plan so you can walk away with some strategies and resources to start taking immediate action.
Take the Burnout Risk Assessment and discover if you are at risk and what you can start doing today to overcome chronic stress and reverse burnout.
Elizabeth Patterson, M.A., ACCProfessional Certified Women's Leadership Coach & Burnout Strategist
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